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November 2019

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Giving Tuesday, Kinship, Kinship Connections

Giving Tuesday is Next Week! Support Grandmas like Miss Valerie With A Gift To Beech Acres Parenting Center!

Miss Valerie is just one of nearly 100,000 grandparents providing care for a loved one’s child. Many of the grandparents find themselves in these unexpected circumstances due to unfortunate circumstances such as domestic violence, the opioid epidemic, or the death of a parent. They all just want to do the best they can to care for their grandchildren. Miss Valerie is co-parenting her six great-grandchildren with her granddaughter. The children range in age from a teenager all the way to a 5-month-old baby girl. It’s a busy life and not one she expected to be living at her age. Thanks to your support Miss Valerie has access to valuable resources she didn’t even know were available to her. Kinship Connections through Beech Acres Parenting Center provides access to financial resources, help with navigating complex paperwork, and most importantly, connections with other caregivers in similar circumstances. Miss Valerie has been attending Kinship classes for over a year and always makes sure to bring plenty of great questions, and plenty of pictures of her great-grandchildren. Caregivers in Kinship Connections share stories and laughter, and yes even a few tears, but they are stronger together and take what they learn back home to care for the children in their home. This #GivingTuesday support kinship caregivers with a gift to Beech Acres Parenting Center. 9% of all children in Ohio are being raised by a grandparent or other relative that needs support now. You can make a difference with your gift today.

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ACEs

What’s Strong With You?

It’s time to start asking our kids “what’s strong with you, not what’s wrong with you?” Recently the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released a report* highlighting Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and the lifelong health implications related to them. The report is a wake-up call to everyone about this critical public health issue. What are ACEs anyway? Adverse Childhood Experiences, more commonly referred to as ACEs, are potentially traumatic events that occur during childhood and have a negative impact on a child’s development. These traumatic events can be a number of different circumstances and can range in severity. Examples of ACEs include: Physical abuse Sexual abuse Emotional abuse Physical neglect Emotional neglect Exposure to domestic violence Drug use or substance abuse in the home Mental illness in the household Separation from parents through divorce, incarceration, or death ACEs were first discovered during the landmark Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) conducted in 1997 by the CDC and Kaiser Permanente. In the study, a close association between these adverse childhood experiences or traumas and long term health and social problems was clearly established. Why should we take notice of this? According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 1 in 6 adults have experienced four or more different types of ACEs. 1 in 6. And 2/3rds of all kids experience at least one. ACEs are associated with 5 of the top 10 leading causes of death in the United States. This is a critical public health issue and it affects us all. Hope for the future. The long-term health implications associated with ACEs are very serious. Fortunately, there is hope. The CDC estimates that reducing and preventing ACEs could potentially reduce a large number of serious health conditions. These include: Eliminating up to 2.5 million cases of obesity or diabetes Reducing heart disease cases by nearly 2 million Reducing the number of adults who suffer from depression by as much as 44% Imagine the positive social and economic impacts of this. Imagine the possibilities and opportunities that would be available to an entire generation. What can I do? We can begin to make a difference one kid at a time, one moment at a time. With every interaction we have with a child we have the opportunity to show them that they are safe and protected. Let them know this by being fully present, fully engaged, and mindful in the moment with them. Once a child knows that they are safe, that they are protected, we can begin to let them know they matter. Identify and build their unique strengths in a way that makes them resilient. Resilience is the key to breaking this cycle and avoiding the potential long-term health problems associated with childhood trauma. Every moment matters. Having a supportive, consistent adult in a child’s life is the most effective tool in overcoming childhood trauma. Creating safe, stable, nurturing environments where children avoid trauma and are given the opportunity to thrive is critical. This can begin at home, school, your doctor’s office. You don’t have to a doctor or a therapist to have an effect. Anyone can make a difference. And in doing so, lowering the impact of ACEs, you might just be adding valuable years to a child’s life. What we are doing. For nearly a decade Beech Acres Parenting Center has been on a trauma-informed journey. Since the science and the data is always evolving, so too are the ways in which we approach helping parents, families, and children. Our staff has completed trauma-informed training, participated in learning communities, and established partnerships with organizations such as Joining Forces for Children and Building Community Resilience as part of this ongoing journey. Our programs have evolved too moving form treatment specific interventions into infusing trauma-informed principles into everything we do. We’ve moved into schools (Beyond the Classroom, The Character Effect™) and pediatric offices (Parent Connext™) where we can be where kids and parents are to make effective, systemic change possible. ACEs may seem like an overwhelming problem with too many children locked in a cycle of abuse, neglect, and trauma. But together we can break that cycle. Together we can make a difference. *https://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns/aces/index.html

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The Ohio Children’s Trust Fund: Supporting Grandparents and Other Caregivers In the Community

Thank You To The Ohio Children’s Trust Fund For Supporting Grandparents and Other Caregivers In the Community Last fall, thanks to a significant grant from the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund, Beech Acres Parenting Center expanded our work in helping grandparents and other relatives who find themselves in the unexpected position of raising their grandchildren and other kin. This work is critical, as nearly 9% of all children in the state of Ohio are being raised by a kinship caregiver*. Now serving families in Hamilton, Clermont, Warren and Clinton Counties, Kinship Connections is a support system and network dedicated to providing assistance with financial resources, navigating confusing and complex paperwork, and connecting with other families experiencing similar circumstances. Support from the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund makes it possible to help these families at no cost to them. “Relatives are the preferred resource for children who must be removed from their birth parents because it maintains the children’s connections with their families and other familiar aspects of a child’s life,” said Jane Dockery, Coordinator of the Southwest Ohio Regional Prevention Council of the OCTF. The top concerns facing kinship families are the need for kinship navigation, the need for peer support, and the need for parenting education/ parenting support. “Beech Acres is working on all three of these fronts,” Jane said. We are so grateful to the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund for making it possible to provide hope for vulnerable families who find themselves in unfortunate and unexpected circumstances. Founded in 1984, the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund is Ohio’s sole, dedicated public funding source for child abuse and neglect prevention. The mission of the Trust Fund is to prevent child abuse and neglect by investing in strong communities, healthy families and safe children. “OCTF is dedicated to helping children and families thrive. Through our efforts, we aim to increase the funding spent on universal prevention, promote the healthy development of children, and prevent child abuse before it occurs,” said Nicole Sillaman, Program Manager of the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund. To learn more about the Ohio Children’s Trust Fund visit OCTF.ohio.gov. *https://jfs.ohio.gov/factsheets/KinshipCare.pdf

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Parenting Tips

Is My Teens Defiance Normal? Or Is Something Else Happening?

Raising teenagers can be a particularly stressful time for parents. Along with the physical changes, social complications, and everyday struggles today’s kids deal with, teenagers often bring with them a rebellious, defiant nature that can be difficult to manage. While oppositional behaviors can be difficult for parents to deal with no matter the age of their child, it can seem amplified when they are older. It is important to note that oppositional behavior is normal for nearly all teens…even if you’ve had a child who was a perfect angel through their teen years. While it may not seem normal or even helpful to hear that, keep in mind you’re not alone. As a parent, it is hard to not take the behaviors personally. Remember these behaviors are usually targeted at you because parents are the safest people to be frustrated within a teen’s/tween’s life. Approach them with empathy and understanding. Kids develop and go through these stages for many years and on their own schedule, not just 9-12 as “tweens” are formally defined. This is often a tough time for kids and the kids don’t know why they are frustrated and angry most of the time. Every child and every circumstance are unique. Extended periods of or constant defiance may be indicative of a more serious issue. Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a formal mental health diagnosable type of behavior disorder that is primarily identified in youth.  Children with ODD can appear uncooperative, defiant, and sometimes hostile toward peers, parents, teachers, and other authority figures. A diagnosis of this type indicates an intense and chronic condition often going beyond your child simply being difficult on occasion. Sometimes consistent irritability can also be a sign of depression in teens. Teens/Tweens don’t necessarily respond to depression like adults, with textbook symptoms of lethargy and sadness. A child experiencing some symptoms of depression may not be clinically depressed.  It is important for parents to monitor what is happening in their life at that time – are they struggling in school? Are they having trouble with friend groups? Did a key friendship go south or in a different direction? Are they feeling pressure to fit in?  Are they getting negative feedback from peers (may not always reach the level of bullying, but can be hurtful)? Did they not make a sports team or get the role they wanted in the school play? Even as adults, we would be sad about some of these things happening to us. When this sadness or irritability is present with consistency over a period of time or MOST of the time (i.e. half the time teens are awake or more), it’s time to talk to the pediatrician.  If your child ever expresses hopelessness or talks about self-harm, seek support immediately.  This does not mean your child is suicidal but means that your child is reaching out for help to you.  It’s a good time to seek professional support. Here are some tips for parents of a tween/teen struggling with cranky/moody/oppositional behaviors: ‘Time In’ where you avoid all questioning and intel seeking about life, school, friends – ask the child to play music that they like, ask them about their favorites (food, movie, ice cream flavor, etc.).  Ask them to tell you a joke or tell them one.  Going in the “side door” to interact with them can open other doors. If your child talks about life and other things while you are together, simply listen. Work to demonstrate that you understand that they may not know why they feel the way they do. They may not be able to identify the feeling b/c it is complex.  Channel empathy and make statements such as, “I can see that feeling this way is probably really hard for you”. Use a tool like the “how are you feeling today” poster – have them point to the feeling picture that seems to fit best and even invite them to choose more than one if they want (you can find these on the internet).  This can give you important information about where they stand with feelings at the moment.  You can help name and frame the feelings for them by affirming what they choose by repeating the name back to them and normalizing the feeling as one that many people experience – great teaching moments. Need more guidance? Schedule a Parent Coaching session with one of our Parenting Specialists. Check out these links for more info. https://www.verywellfamily.com/moodiness-in-tweens-3288338 https://www.verywellfamily.com/why-is-my-teen-so-moody-3200842 https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/is-it-an-adolescent-phase-or-out-of-control-behavior/ https://www.yourmodernfamily.com/teenagers-cranky/ Watch this Ted Talk about the teenage brain: https://www.ted.com/talks/sarah_jayne_blakemore_the_mysterious_workings_of_the_adolescent_brain?language=en  

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Giving Tuesday, Mental Health, Uncategorized

Help Kids Like Scott Receive Critical Interventions and Services Right in Their School With a Gift To Beech Acres Parenting Center

Scott was sent to the principal’s office. Again. He seemed so angry all the time. His behavior was affecting his school work and his relationship with his family. Mom and dad were frustrated and unsure about how to approach the situation. A Family Peer Support Specialist at Scott’s school connected the family with Beech Acres Parenting Center. The family was excited to have access to services for their son right in his school. They quickly learned Scott’s strengths (humor and kindness were his top!) and the power of mindfulness. Scott’s therapist identified self-regulation as a strength to be improved. Scott learned an activity he could use to help himself calm down when confronted with a stressful situation. Scott learned to S.T.O.P. Stop what you are doing. Take a calming breath. Observe what’s around you. Proceed with what you are doing. This simple exercise improved his behavior and decreased the number of visits to the principal’s office. Scott still has a long way to go, but with your support, he and his family are becoming stronger and growing closer every day. With a gift to Beech Acres Parenting Center this #GivingTuesday you are helping kids like Scott receive critical interventions and services right in their school. Download the STOP Mindful Moment  

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Donate, Giving Tuesday, Natural Strength Parenting™, The Character Effect™

Support Beech Acres Parenting Center This Giving Tuesday

Support Beech Acres Parenting Center This Giving Tuesday, December 3, 2019. Inpire and Equip today’s parents, families, and communities to raise capable, caring, contributing children. The mission of Beech Acres Parenting Center hasn’t changed much in over 170 years. What has changed is the way we approach our mission. In today’s rapidly changing world, parents are looking for ways to be more present with their children, to understand and to build on their child’s strengths, and to improve their child’s mental well being. Thanks to your support Beech Acres Parenting Center meets parents where they are; in schools, pediatrician’s offices, and right in their community with innovative services such as The Character Effect™, Parent Connext™, Kinship Connections, and our beloved Foster Care Program. This #GivingTuesday help us achieve our vision of a world where all children are nurtured to discover, cultivate and apply their natural gifts. Your gift supports parents right in our community who are looking to improve their relationship with their children and strengthen their families. Thank you for your support.

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character strengths, Gratitude, Strengths

Gratitude Coloring Page

Everyone has 24 character strengths inside them. This month we’re celebrating the strength of gratitude.  Gratitude is being aware of and being thankful for the good things that happen in your life. And being mindful about taking the time to express that thanks. Express your gratitude by downloading our gratitude coloring page.  Coloring can be a relaxing exercise. Share this activity with your family. After you color the front side, take a moment to share and write down things you are grateful for on the reverse.  *logo used with permission from Children, Inc.

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Beech Acres Parenting Center Receives Generous Grant From the Scripps Howard Foundation

Beech Acres Parenting Center is grateful to the Scripps Howard Foundation for their generous grant of $10,000 designated for our Family Emergency Fund. The Family Emergency Fund helps address basic needs that many of the families we serve face, including shelter, transportation, clothing, and food. Thank you to the Scripps Howard Foundation for your extraordinary generosity! ABOUT THE SCRIPPS HOWARD FOUNDATION The Scripps Howard Foundation (www.scripps.com/foundation), based in Cincinnati, Ohio, is the philanthropic arm of The E.W. Scripps Company. With a special commitment to the regions where Scripps does business, the Foundation helps build strong communities and improve the quality of life through support of sound educational programs, strong families, vital social services, enriching arts and culture and inclusive civic affairs. The Scripps Howard Foundation is a leader in industry efforts in journalism education, scholarships, internships, minority recruitment and development, literacy and First Amendment causes.

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Gratitude, Strengths

What Are You Grateful For?

A child’s gratitude naturally grows from a loving, mindful connection to their parents. When you listen and actively engage with your kids, you are planting the seeds of gratitude. The message is that they matter and that you are grateful for the love and time that you share. This month we’re celebrating the strength of #gratitude. We’ll have some fun activities for you to share gratitude with your family and we want to hear from you. What are you grateful for?

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