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Holidays, Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips, Parents

December is National Stress-Free Family Holidays Month

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December is National Stress-Free Family Holidays Month December is National Stress-Free Family Holidays Month. Yeah, right. A stress-free family holiday may sound like a fantasy. In fact, for many families, the additional stress of the holidays can feel overwhelming. We can help your family navigate this unusually stressful time. Set An Intention to Have a Stress-Free Holiday Season Setting intentions helps you manifest what you want to accomplish. By simply agreeing as a family to work towards a stress-free holiday season, you’ve already changed your family’s mindset and decreased your chances of becoming overwhelmed. Use Your Strengths to Navigate the Stressful Holiday Season Start by using your family’s strengths to help you navigate the busy holiday season. Leaning into your family’s strengths can help mitigate stress. Perseverance, Creativity, and Kindness can help you unlock a stress-free holiday. Find something for the whole family to do together. Bake some holiday treats. Find and complete a holiday-themed craft or puzzle. Sign our Kindness pledge and start spreading kindness in your family, your community, and the world. Practice Mindfulness Practicing mindfulness is a proven way to reduce stress. Mindfulness can be implemented in easy ways. Subscribe to our YouTube page and watch our short mindful minute videos. These brief exercises can help calm your mind and your body and help you release stress during the busy holiday season. The holidays can be stressful. But by setting intentions, leveraging your family’s strengths, and practicing mindfulness, your family can survive the busy holiday season and maybe even have a little fun. Need more support this year? Contact us today to schedule a parent coaching session with one of our Parent Connext® Parenting Specialists.

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Gratitude, Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips, Parents

November Is National Gratitude Month!

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A child’s gratitude naturally grows from a loving, mindful connection to their parents. When you listen and actively engage with your kids, you are planting the seeds of gratitude. The message is that they matter and that you are grateful for the love and time that you share. What is Gratitude?  Gratitude, as an individual character strength, is defined as “I appreciate the good things that happen to me.” Appreciating the good things that happen to you, both big and small, can have an exponentially positive effect on your mood and your life. How can you celebrate Gratitude with your family? Begin by modeling Gratitude. Your children are always watching you and, more importantly, looking up to you. The things you do and say will impact them and influence how they behave. An easy way to model gratitude in your daily routine is to tell your kids “Thank you” any time they cooperate or do something you ask them to. Really reinforce this by thanking them if they do something without being told.  Next, notice any time your child expresses gratitude. When a child says “thank you,” they are expressing their gratitude. Whether they are saying it in response to a gift, a hug, or picking them up from basketball practice-make, note of this. Try saying, “I love what a grateful spirit you have,” or, “thanks so much for always remembering to say thank you.” It will make a difference. You may even hear them say thank you more often! Wouldn’t that be nice? Show gratitude for who they are as a unique individual and all of the wonderful strengths and personality traits they exhibit.  Focus on what they are doing right much more than what they are doing wrong. Make gratitude part of your family’s routine. This can be daily, monthly or annually. An easy way to do this daily is to have everyone share one thing they are grateful for at dinnertime. Too busy to have dinner together? We get it. Set an intention to find time each day to share what you are grateful for. From breakfast to bedtime, there’s always time for a moment of gratitude. You can further integrate gratitude into your family by planning a day each month to volunteer for a cause that is important to your family. Helping others deepens your feeling of gratitude as it makes you more grateful for the things you do have. Go even further with a big annual gesture; run a 5k as a family that supports a cause you love, volunteer at a food bank during the holidays, find something BIG to give back to the community. What If My Child Struggles To Express Gratitude? When children seem ungrateful, it is most important to get curious about the need and feeling underneath their behavior. Addressing the root cause of their feelings compassionately will usually resolve the issue.  Need more help? Schedule a parent coaching session today!

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Bullying, Cyberbullying, Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips

Information on Bullying From Parent Connext

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Bullying is a Common Parenting Concern Most parents say that one of their greatest fears is that their children will experience BULLYING by their peers. With information and support, parents can take steps to decrease the likelihood of their child being bullied, as well as help their child if they do experience bullying. Bullying is defined as unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. – stopbullying.gov Types of Bullying:•Physical – hurting a person’s body or possessions. Includes hitting, kicking, pinching, spitting, tripping, pushing, taking or breaking someone’s things. •Verbal – saying or writing mean things. Includes teasing, name-calling, taunting, or threatening to cause harm. •Social – hurting someone’s reputation or relationships (also called relational bullying). Includes leaving someone out on purpose, telling other children not to be friends with someone, or embarrassing someone publicly. •Cyberbullying – Bullying via the internet and social media. Talk to Your Child Talk to your child about bullying and what to do if they experience or witness bullying. Ask them to name feelings that come up when bullying happens. Develop a Plan Read a book or watch a show or movie together that addresses bullying. Discuss it as a family. Determine how your family will deal with bullying. Talk to your child about what it means to be an Upstander. Role play situations that might happen and try different responses. Encourage Positivity Encourage positive friendships. Arrange play dates & encourage your child to reach out to a friend to get together. Building strong, positive social connections helps prevent bullying and helps build resilience. We’re Here For You! Parent Connext® provides parents with prompt, practical support for a variety of parenting challenges that families face every day. Contact us today.

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Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips, Parents, Pediatrician

Tips For New Parents on Selecting a Pediatrician 

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Becoming a parent is such a huge life-changing event. Everything about becoming a parent can be overwhelming; from choosing the right pediatrician to selecting a name they may live with forever; parenting is full of tough choices.  One of those choices includes selecting the right pediatrician for your child. This can be overwhelming and stressful. Here are some things to look for when considering pediatric offices.  Location, Location, Location Choosing a convenient location may seem simple, but choosing a pediatric office that is easy to access for your family is important. This does not necessarily mean you should select the pediatric office closest to your home; there are other factors to consider but knowing you can easily and quickly get your sick child to the doctor is important.  Consider that in the first year of your child’s life, you will regularly visit your pediatrician for well-child visits. As your child gets older, these regular check-ups will likely be annual if your child is generally healthy. Still, there are sick visits, scheduled vaccinations, clinics, and sports medical forms-you may be at your pediatrician more often than you realize. And if you have multiple children, these visits increase.  Office Logistics  When looking at the location of your pediatrician, make sure you also understand their hours and availability. Here are some questions to consider; What is your and your partner’s work schedule? How do they schedule appointments? How long does it take to get in for sick and well visits? What is the off-hour schedule? What about weekend and evening availability? Do they offer on-call access to a physician?  Other things that may be important to you may be online scheduling and online access to your child’s medical records. Newsletters or social media presence with updates on the office, parenting tips, and other information may be something you are looking for to research a pediatrician or stay connected with the office.  If you have private insurance, make sure the office accepts your insurance, and you understand their policies on payments, co-pays, and prescriptions. These office logistics are just as important as the location of your doctor.  Culture  Trying to gauge the culture of an office may be more difficult, but if you visit this office at least once a year for 18 years, you want to make sure it’s a good fit for your family. Does the staff seem friendly? Are there indications that the practice’s values align with your family’s values? Parents should intentionally sit down to identify your family’s values and use those to help guide you in important decisions like this. This could include your point of view on healthcare and whether the provider aligns with those values.  Does the practice have specific philosophies on things such as parenting, sleep, circumcision, feeding, vaccines, potty training, and antibiotics? You may find philosophical differences between your family’s values and the pediatricians’ philosophies that may be indicative that this may not be a good fit.  Credentials, Certifications and Reputation Where did your pediatrician attend medical school? How long have they been practicing? Are they up to date on certifications and the latest science as it relates to child development? It’s ok to ask these questions and confirm their authenticity. You may think that a seasoned doctor who has been practicing medicine for years will have the experience to make the best decisions and recommendations about the health of your child. Or you may believe a new physician, fresh off their rotations, may bring a fresh and modern perspective to raising a healthy child. Look for degrees, certifications, and other documentation around the office.  Everyone has an opinion and the ability to share that online. Parents are likely to be vocal if they love their pediatrician, or if they have specific issues with a practice. While you certainly should not base your decision just on online reviews, checking out the practices online reputation and simply talking to people in your community can help you better understand the experiences parents before you had with this practice.  Other Important Considerations  We’ve covered some if the major considerations you should think about when selecting a pediatrician, but there are many other things that may be important to you or influence your decision. Are sick patients separated from well patients in the waiting room? Are virtual visits an option? Does your doctor have plans to retire soon? What hospitals if any is the practice affiliated with? There are so many questions to ask to make sure you make an informed decision about your child’s healthcare.  Listen to your gut—if the provider isn’t really listening to your concerns or questions, or you just don’t feel like it’s a good fit, trust that intuition. This person will likely be caring for your child for at least 18 years, so you want to make sure it’s a good fit & that you feel comfortable not only with him/her but also with other staff as well.  Finding the right pediatrician can be a stressful proposition. Proper planning, asking the right questions, and thoroughly vetting each practice will help ensure you make the right decision for your family.  Download this resource here.

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Parenting Tips, Parents

Tips For Finding A Daycare

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Tips for New Parents on Finding A Daycare Becoming a parent is such a huge life-changing event. Everything about becoming a parent can be overwhelming; from choosing the right pediatrician to selecting a name that they may live with forever; parenting is full of tough choices. One of those choices may be finding the right childcare for your newborn. This can be overwhelming and stressful. Here are some things to look for when considering childcare providers. Carefully Consider Your Options There are many different options for childcare. Finding the one that works for your family is critically important. Here are some options available to you as a new parent seeking childcare. In-home care. Finding an in-home childcare provider can be expensive but may be the right choice for your family. In-home options include afull or part-time nanny or au pair, babysitters, or even a close relative or friends. If grandma and grandpa live nearby and are capable and healthy, they may be excited at the opportunity to help. If that’s not an option a well-vetted and reviewed professional may be a good option for your child. You may also consider partnering with another family or two in order to start a nanny share in one or both of your homes. This arrangement can be more cost-effective, while also providing more individualized care. Out of-home care. Out-of-home childcare options may include a local daycare center or an individual who provides care in their home. For either option, make sure the provider has safe facilities, proper paperwork if applicable and positive references or reviews. Creative options. It may be timeto think “outside the box” when searching for the right childcare option for your family. Explore local childcare swap or co-ops or find out what sorts of flexible scheduling options may be available through your employer. Raising a child requires your strength of Creativity, so might your childcare search. Options for older or school-age children. Your older children may have a variety of options available for them. These might include before or after-school clubs or camps, summer camps, or volunteer opportunities. Check with your local library to see what options may be a good fit for your older children. Other Important Considerations There are several other things to keep in mind as you seek out the right childcare option for your family. Obviously, and most importantly, is safety. How safe is the facility or home you are leaving your child at every day? These providers should be able to provide you with safety information and protocols to help you make an informed decision. How many other children are being cared for in the same place? A daycare or in-home caregiver that has too many children under their supervision may lead to your child not getting the appropriate time, care, or attention. Does the philosophy of the facility or caregiver align with your values and child-raising philosophy? Ask for examples of their philosophy and how that is implemented into their day-to-day routines. Looking for your own parenting philosophy? Learn more about Natural Strength Parenting™, our unique approach to parenting.  You may also be interested in howthe caregiver communicates issues and how responsive they are to your questions. This can give you an idea of how well they may or may not communicate with you in the future. Are their cameras so you can check in on your child virtually? A safe outdoor play area? You probably have so many questions, it’s a good idea to plan ahead for your search. Write down all the questions you may have and make sure you receive satisfactory answers to them before you continue. Finding the right childcare provider can be a stressful proposition. Planning ahead, asking the right questions, and thoroughly vetting each prospect will help ensure you make the right decision for your family. Download this resource here. Additional Resources www.4cforchildren.org https://jfs.ohio.gov/cdc/ StepUpFamily.stm

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Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips, Screen Time

Simple Screentime Solutions from Parent Connext® 

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Parents, pause and take a look around you. What is your family doing right now?  Chances are, everyone is looking at their phone, tablet, laptop, or game console. It can be frustrating when everyone is constantly staring at their screens. While technology is certainly a big part of our lives now, you can find ways to manage screen time and increase face-to-face time with your family.  Start With You Start by assessing your own relationships with screens. It’s very easy to get caught up checking email, doomscrolling through social media, looking at photos, texting your friends, or watching TV. Are you modeling good screen hygiene to your kids? Decide if this is a good use of your time right now or if you have an opportunity to put your phone down or close your laptop and be present in the moment with your family.  Call a Family Meeting Not another family meeting? Your kids may groan about it but setting an intention to talk about screens is the best way to open a productive dialogue on the subject. Work together to set guidelines and expectations about when it is and is not appropriate to use screens. No screens at the dinner table may be a good place to start. Including your children in this conversation will help them feel like they are part of the solution. Revisit Your Family Values  This conversation is a great opportunity to revisit your family’s values. They can help you inform any decisions about screentime you may have. For example, is it important for your family to have dedicated time to discuss your day? Are screens infringing on this important time? If so, this is an opportunity to lean into what’s truly important to your family. Need a refresher on identifying your family’s values? Click here https://beechacres.org/find-your-familys-purpose-values-vision-and-goals Now, make a pro/con list about screen time and internet usage. Take this opportunity to discuss internet safety with your child. https://beechacres.org/revisiting-screen-time-and-online-safety-with-your-kids/. Next, discuss the positive aspects of screens; unwinding with a video game, staying connected with friends and family, as well as the negative; cyberbullying, exposure to unrealistic body images, and negative impacts on mental wellness. This conversation can help you decide on realistic changes to your family’s screen time habits.  Consider the safety and convenience technology affords families. Within 48 hours of getting their first iPhone and being part of Family Sharing, one mom received a message from her daughter… “I can see on Find My Phone you are still sitting at your desk and NOT on your way to pick me up. Love you!” Knowing where your kids are and having a way to contact them when necessary is a big benefit of technology. No more searching for quarters and payphones when your kids are ready to be picked up from the mall.  Finally, decide as a family what are reasonable consequences when someone is not following the family’s plan. The threat of taking away the Xbox, iPad, or Galaxy Note may be enough to keep everyone on the same page.  Establish Realistic Guidelines Some decisions will be easy; no screens at the table, no games until after homework, while others may be more complicated to navigate; when is it ok to get your child a phone, when should they get on social media, should they have their phones at school. Finding a balance here is important. Set priorities based on your family’s values and goals, then set aside appropriate time to be online. Work together as a family to establish these guidelines in order to build consensus and avoid problems down the road. You may want to lean in to your family’s strengths of creativity and teamwork to create a schedule or contract to personify the guidelines you agree upon.  Both Apple and Google offer ways to utilize software to help you enforce rules and monitor your child’s screen use. For example, children of any age can be added to Family Sharing and have parental controls added, including forced downtime, blocking inappropriate content, and enforcing specific limits on apps. Limiting access to web browsers can also help you control and monitor what your child can access on the internet.  For your younger children, you may be hesitant to even give them a screen. This can be difficult especially if all of their friends have a phone or tablet. You can still have these conversations with younger children, just make sure they understand that you have their best interests in mind, whatever you agree on. A good place to start for younger kids getting a phone or tablet is to have them ask permission before they can download an app. You’ll receive a notification when they want to download something and then you can approve, deny, or have a conversation about what the app is and what it does.  Screens dominate our lives. Whether we’re social media addicts, binge-watching streamers, hard-core gamers, or budding influencers, it seems everyone is on their phones all the time. Your family has the power and ability to decide on appropriate screen time for everyone, balancing fun, work, and most importantly, quality time together as a family. 

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Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips

Help Your Family Manage The Homework Blues

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Helping Your Family Manage the Homework Blues  Homework can sometimes feel like a 2nd job for your kids…and for you too. Nobody likes bringing work home, your kids included. Managing the Homework Blues  First, try and be intentional with your family’s time. Your kids need downtime to relax and decompress after school. We understand that this is not always possible with after-school sports, clubs, dance, etc., but having dedicated time for your child to process their day can ease some of the stress of homework time.  Next, have an open conversation with your child about homework. What is important to your family about completing homework? This can be an excellent teaching opportunity to help your young student understand responsibility and accountability. Make sure you understand and discuss the school’s and the teacher’s expectations as well. Teachers are likely to focus on learning, practice, repetition, and mastery in terms of homework expectations.  Take Off Your Teacher Hat  You do not have to grade, correct, or even watch over your child while they are doing their homework. Let your child take ownership and make mistakes. Remember FAIL is just a first attempt in learning. The point of homework is not for the teacher to know what YOU know, but to assess what the student knows. You can support your child of course, and provide help when needed, but correcting them can create tension and conflict that is unhelpful. And doing the work for them doesn’t help them learn the content or responsibility.  Try to incorporate fun and play when appropriate and remember your child needs time to be a child and just play. If your evenings are overwhelmed by too much homework, check-in with your child’s teacher and let them know it is too much and problem-solve a plan together to reduce the amount of time your child has to do homework. Handling Frustration and Refusal to do Homework  Sometimes children are just overwhelmed. School isn’t just about learning, your child is dealing with friends, other commitments, and strong emotions as they grow up. It’s a lot! So, it’s no wonder sometimes homework can bring on strong emotions even some tears.  If your child is not wanting to do their homework, instead of getting drawn into a power struggle, connect your child with another activity, then get curious about what is really going on. There is likely an unmet need the child has and if you can meet that need, you get more cooperation.  Have your child do something active before you start, eat a snack, and let them choose the best time for them. Do you want to do it before or after dinner? Make it fun and doable. If your child has a lot of homework, chunk it out, and give lots of breaks with fun rewards like playing a game or going outside.  Homework can cause lots of frustrations, power struggles, and stress within your family. Knowing how to help your child manage that stress can take the pain out of homework time and return some sense of sanity to your busy evening routines. 

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Natural Strength Parenting™, Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips

Helping Emotionally Sensitive Boys Manage Their Emotions Positively

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Boys Have Feelings Too Pre-teenage boys bring with them a wide range of complicated and unique issues. Recently we helped a family navigate some challenges related to emotional sensitivity that may sound familiar to you. Their 12-year-old son was having trouble processing and expressing emotions, especially around specific stressors. He was quick to react negatively to even seemingly basic or otherwise non-confrontational conversation. He remarked that he felt that he was being yelled at ‘all the time’. Further, he would quit trying and become frustrated when facing a loss in sports. Sound familiar? Read on for tips from our parenting experts on handling emotionally sensitive pre-teen boys. During the pre-teen years, emotions can have a stronghold on both boys and girls. This can be as frustrating for parents as it is scary for kids. How those emotions get expressed depends on many factors. Knowing our own expectations, how our brains are wired, and ways to support, (not change) children, is key. Social Cues and Unconscious Expectations We live in a world that dictates to us, less so now than in previous generations but still exists, gender-approved responses. A little girl can cry without the same response that a little boy might receive. If a little girl keeps her emotions to herself, she may be seen as snobby or uncaring. Imagine this message for a boy about to be a teen! Unconsciously we encourage certain behaviors from our children so it’s important to check in with ourselves about those expectations. Where does our emotional gauge land? How different are we from our children? Check in with their teacher about the ‘language of emotion’ in the classroom. How is the teacher supporting a range of emotions equally from both genders and how is emotional regulation being encouraged? Beech Acres may be in your child’s school. Click to learn more. Brain Science/Development We are born into the world equipped with many of our personality traits (temperament for example). These differences that are grounded in one’s biological makeup present diverse challenges for parents who must respond to different kinds of children. When it comes to finding the ‘best approach’, one size does not fit all. In addition, as young children develop, their early emotional experiences literally build from their biological makeup and become embedded into the architecture of their brains. Knowing that it is part of our wiring as to how we respond to our inner and outside world helps. At no other time in a child’s life will they go through more emotional, physical, and cognitive changes than they do in their teens. An 11-year-old is ‘next door’ to that time in his life so everything is amplified. This can fuel or intensify emotions making a sensitive child seem even more so. Emotional sensitivity happens in two ways: One is how tuned in to their own feelings and how tuned in to other people’s feelings they are. Developmentally, children can experience one or the other differently. It can seem like ‘he does not care how his reaction makes me feel, he just seems to care about how it makes him feel”. What Can Parents Do? Working with your child’s sensitivity, and appreciating this strength for all the wonderful benefits it provides him throughout life is a good place to start. Celebrate those advantages with him so that he does not feel as if there is something wrong with him. Share without judgment that is tuned in to how they feel is such a good thing AND it can also create some pretty strong feelings that take hold and can make us feel like we have no control.” Get curious: “do you notice how that happens for you?” You might share “when I have a strong reaction, I can feel it in my stomach. And I might say something that I later regret. What about you?” Using the language of emotion will help you to have this conversation. Get creative and curious. Role play with him. “Can you help me hear how my response should be so that it does not sound like yelling to you?” Watch a show together and notice how people speak differently to one another and talk about how you may hear the response differently and why: we listen to one another through our ‘filters’. You can make a mask with words on the front that are ways we hear others and on the inside how those words make us feel. A 12-year-old said his ‘outside word’ was “you need to” and his inside word was “you are not good enough”. Identifying one of his strengths, ask how he might use that to understand that a person’s tone is not always how we ‘filter’ it. Give examples of how you have misinterpreted a person’s response. Be clear about expectations. “I feel disrespected when you talk back to me”. Teaching children to pause is a great way for them to learn to be less reactive. Ask, “How can you help yourself to pause before responding because when you talk back I stop listening and that does not get either of us anywhere.” Follow up with that question: “How will that make a difference in the way that we solve the problem? What can I do to help?” “When you are disrespectful you lose……and I know that is not what you want to have happen.” Every parent has a different rule about sports, but the coach is also a partner in this. Ask him/her how she handles ‘sore loser’ syndrome and what are some ways that you can support their message. Ask your son when he does not accomplish what he hoped to do (a good way to phrase that), what are some ways that he can improve on what he is doing. Ask what he tells himself about not accomplishing what he thought he should. Where does that expectation come from? How are others doing on the team? How does he measure success in his own mind? Ask him to

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Let’s Get Started With Natural Strength Parenting™

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Parenting Is Hard! Being a parent is the most important and challenging job you’ll ever do! Natural Strength Parenting™ can help you navigate the challenging times and enjoy your child more. What is Natural Strength Parenting™ Natural Strength Parenting™ is a unique approach to parenting that encourages you to be intentional and mindful in your parenting while focusing on your child’s innate strengths. Building on their strengths will increase their confidence, self-esteem, and resilience, all of which lead to positive well-being. Natural Strength Parenting™ combines intentionality, the 24 character strengths, and the positive psychology of mindfulness into an effective parenting model that can have a profound impact on your family. Start By Being Intentional To be intentional is to live a proactive, purposeful life instead of a reactive life on auto-pilot.Here are some simple steps to get started with intentionality. • Stop asking your children, ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ ask them ‘Who do you want to be when you grow up? What type of adult?’• Take a moment to contemplate what you want your children to say about you in your eulogy.Bigger Steps:• Write down your values as a family. Here is a true story of one family.• Color a family crest together from the Natural Strength Parenting™ Starter Kit. Discover Your Family’s Strengths Did you know everyone has 24 character strengths inside of them? Natural energy comes from using our top 5 – but all are inside! Human’s reflex is to fix what’s wrong… but brain science has taught us by encouraging your children’s strengths builds the resilience and skills to resist the negative influences surrounding them. Here are some simple steps to get started with strengths. • Try replacing the phrase ‘good job’ with something more specific. ‘It was brave of you to sign-up for that activity without knowing anyone.’ ‘You really persevered working through that social studies project.’ You are strength-spotting! Bigger Steps: • Either take the complete VIA Character Strength survey at their website or try the shorter version in our ‘starter kit’ and then plot out your family in the table! Practice Mindfulness We can only see our child(ren)’s strengths if our minds are open to them and purposely noticing what she/he is doing. Likewise, we can only set a specific intention for the future if we are aware of our current situation. Start with these simple steps to implement mindfulness. • Take a breath.• Play and put down the smartphone – try the Forest app Bigger Steps: • Teach your kids, S.T.O.P. and encourage them to use it before MAP tests, their next game; music recitals… or when they are about to lose it with a sibling. Putting It All Together You set an intention to raise a strong, independent daughter. You can reinforce this intention by making subtle changes in everyday moments. You’re in a hurry to get home after basketball practice. Your default might be to snap “Get in thecar. We’re running late.” Instead, you could remember your intention and mindfully engage.You might recall that she was afraid to try out for the team. “You used your strength of bravery when you tried out for the team.” Ask a powerful question in the moment: “What new thing did you learn today that will help you be a better player? I want to hear about it on the way home, but we’ve got to gobecause we’re running late today.” See how a small change can make a big difference?

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Natural Strength Parenting™, Parent Connext™, Parenting Tips, Parenting Tips, Parents

Get More of the Behavior You Want from Your Children with These Tips from Parent Connext™

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Get More of the Behavior You Want from Your Children with These Tips from Parent Connext™ Quality Time Spend quality one-on-one time with your child—try 5-10 minutes per day with no distractions. Remember that CONNECTION BUILDS COOPERATION. Spend quality time with your child – Quality one-on-one time (where your child is in charge of how you play or what you do) builds connection between the parent and child. That connection encourages cooperation. Parent By Example Parent by example – Model the behavior you want to see. If you want your children to be respectful, treat them with respect. Model the behavior you want to see. Remember that children learn a lot by observing us– sometimes more than from our words. Give your child lots of positive attention – Use positive reinforcement to encourage the behavior you want. Tell them ‘thank you’ when they are doing what you asked them to do. Praise them. Be appreciative of the behavior you like. Set Proper Expectations for your Child and Yourself Prep your child for challenging situations in advance. For example, “We are going to the store. We are only buying what is on the list.” Or “We need to leave in 5 minutes.” Check your expectations. Children are going to misbehave. Testing boundaries and limits are important aspects of their development. Your power is in how you choose to respond. Be Consistent – Children thrive on knowing what to expect (i.e. morning and bedtime routines) Have realistic expectations – Be aware of what is developmentally appropriate for your child given their age and temperament. For example, a toddler can’t be expected to sit through a 1-2 hour dinner. Prevent and minimize problems by communicating expectations in advance – To a teen, you might say, “I expect you to be home at midnight, that means in the house at 12.” To a child, “We are stopping at the store for a few things, but we aren’t buying anything that isn’t on our list.” Be aware of what you are modeling – This one is worth repeating. Our children learn a lot by watching us. If you don’t want your child to yell, don’t yell. If you don’t want your child to swear, don’t swear. Connect Before You Direct – Make sure you have your child’s attention, touch their arm, get down on their level before making a request. Share Power- When you can, allow your child some say. Children want to have some control, as we all do. It can be as simple as letting them choose if they want to brush their teeth or put on their pajamas first before bed. Use Empathy – When we can be open to our child’s emotions and accept them, whether negative or positive, they are more easily soothed and comforted.

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